Naval 说，愿望就是在满足之前会让你不开心的东西。太多的欲望不可取，要选择一个愿望，其他的都随它去。
But desire, to me, is a contract that you make with yourself to be unhappy until you get what you want. And I keep that in front of mind. So when I’m unhappy about something, I look for what is the underlying desire that I have that’s not being fulfilled. It’s okay to have desires. You’re a biological creature, and you’re put on this earth, you have to do something, you have to have desires, you have a mission.
But don’t have too many. Don’t pick them up unconsciously. Don’t pick them up randomly. Don’t have thousands of them. My coffee’s too cold, doesn’t taste quite right. I’m not sitting perfectly. Oh, I wish it was warmer. You know. My dog, you know, pooped in the lawn, I don’t like that. Whatever it is. Pick your one overwhelming desire. It’s okay to suffer over that one, but on all the others, do you want to let them go so you can be calm and peaceful and relaxed? And then you’ll perform a better job.
最近我在处理消防的问题，也在处理工作中的问题的时候。整个人会不自觉地滑入焦虑和抑郁状态，仿佛事儿不彻底搞好，就没办法开心起来，这是非常有害的。
问题总是层出不穷，而解决问题需要时间。所以正确的做法是：无论问题有没有解决，都要正常地生活。给每个事情足够的耐心，温和而坚定聊，从而避免与他人的冲突，激起情绪上的剧烈波动，慢慢来。我知道耐心很消耗能量，但是焦虑更消耗。无论什么情况，都没有必要用身体健康去交换，这是以往的坏模式。
过往的经验证明，事情都会被解决，而且比我预想的更乐观。这是客观事实，这个事情也不会例外。所以不能做一个极度悲观者。毫无必要的消耗自己的身体健康。
还有一个很重要的是，只要花足够的钱和精力，很多事情自己就能够搞定，没有必要花自己的身体。
所以要树立一些原则：
- 能用钱解决的，就用钱解决。
- 能自己解决的，不要花时间精力去推别人。
- 如果想要推别人，保持乐观，保持耐心。
- 接受失控和失败，以及世界的不完美。